Owning The Cape

"Even when I'm a mess, I put on a vest with an S on my chest..." Alicia Keys

This line is from Alicia Keys's song "Superwoman". It's one of the many anthems to womanhood that have been penned over the years. Today I'm writing about my own battle with this label. I am a self-confessed "A type". I do a lot and have a lot of roles. As a working mother of two, and now also working on my coaching business, my life is very full. Some days it’s a bit TOO FULL lol. But I enjoy it. I know that I'm in the right space in time for me right now, so even though my pace is a bit manic at times, it's extremely fulfilling.

I have not always been at peace with this. I've had the title "superwoman" for most of my adult life. But I didn't OWN it. As a matter of fact, you could even say I resented it. I once journaled, "Superwoman is dead. She was crushed by the weight of the world on her shoulders." Wow, right? That's a very strong statement, but that was the space I was in at the time. Totally a victim - "poor me, I've got too much to do". But it is very real when you are in that space - in overwhelm and not able to find a good way to balance it out.

Now, before I go any further, I am NOT claiming to have figured this all out and have the magic formula. But over the years, and with God's grace and the help of some wonderful teachers, I have begun to challenge my perception of things. The truth of the matter is, I LIKE to be busy. And part of my busyness is because of the various relationships I have - family and friends, and taking time to focus on things that matter to me. So now I embrace the fullness of my life - it gives me focus and adds richness to my life. Recently I've been struggling to balance things out, so I thought writing this would help refocus an reenergize. Hope you enjoy it, too.

OWNING THE CAPE
... so how do you shift into wearing the cape proudly? Here are a few suggestions:
 

  1. Feed your spiritual life. Having a relationship with God helps us tap into a higher power and not feel so helpless when things are out of our control. We all experience bumps along the way, (sometimes valleys and derailments!) but knowing that God is with you throughout makes a huge difference. One of my favorite scriptures is Romans 8:28: "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."(KJV). This verse has gotten me through many rough spots, and in retrospect, I find it to be true! Some of my greatest blessings have come after a period of loss or trial. God knows what he is doing, and part of the trick in owning the cape is knowing when to let go and let Him have control.
  2. Acceptance. If you are a superwoman (or superman) wear the cape proudly! Clearly there is something about you that resonates strength, leadership and/or perseverance. All wonderful traits to embrace!
  3. Cultivate a positive attitude. Do you routinely see the glass as "half full" or "half empty"? We've all heard "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade", and similar adages. How you view things makes a huge difference. So rather than seeing your talents as a burden (like I used to), wear that cape proudly. Cultivate a swagger and own the power that God has endowed you with!
  4. Take care of yourself. I'm sure this seems very basic, but when we are juggling a lot, sometimes we slip to the bottom (or off) of the priority list. This can lead to burnout, resentment and worse. Yes, it's easier said than done, but it is absolutely essential. When I wrote that "superwoman is dead" bit I was not even on the radar screen. Always allow some time for yourself - to enjoy things you like to do, spending time with people you love, or just DOING NOTHING. 

Have a wonderful week, and *raising cup of coffee*... here's to the journey!

Peace & Blessings,
TRamsey © 9/2010


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

What Do You Do When Your "Train" Goes Off The Track?

Have you seen that movie? It was the real life story of two unexpected colleagues who are on this runaway train that is destined to crash into the middle of a small town near Pittsburgh, PA. Throughout the entire movie, there was one suspense-filled moment after the next, and each development has you on the edge of your seat… Each minute builds upon the next, different situations play into the twists and turns of the plot… and no matter what, Denzel (Washington) and his co-star do some pretty unbelievably heroic work to get that train to stop on a dime just before disaster strikes.

Well, that movie is a metaphor for my life right now, believe it or not. UNSTOPPABLE is the word that chose me this year and one that I’m holding onto like a security blanket, living out every highly anticipated, unexpected twist and turn. I am currently dealing with the disappointment of not getting a role that I wanted... badly! When I think about this word and what it means to me, it's a reminder to get back in the game and hold on, 'cause it's not over yet! This is a necessary scene in the story of my life... one that contributes to the real meaning of why I am here and who I am yet to become. It's a reminder that no matter what happens, this year and beyond, I AM UNSTOPPABLE!

What’s the name of your life’s current journey? What word continues to come to you that you can focus on to bring about the best that life can offer you in this moment?

Will you embrace it, bringing the laser focus that’s needed to help it unfold into the happy ending that you’re hoping for? Once your word finds you and you acknowledge it… what changes do you need to make in your everyday life to bring that THOUGHT into ACTION?

What will bring you to the edge of your life’s seat?

DARE to SHARE? - talk to me!

The Magic Of The Mind

Can our mind heal our body?

Recent research has verified that mental and emotional conditions can affect the state of the physical body, and that the body mind connection, is very much true. Every emotion we feel can cause psychological and physical changes in the body which can keep us sick & stuck. Most times we just don’t know how to let go.  Emotions have been shown to be linked to obesity and cancer, which begs the question:  Who’s in charge of your mind?

 “There is an ever growing body of evidence pointing to the role of the mind and its healing power in the treatment of stress, pain, mental, emotional and physical illness. (1)  Mind/body approaches, such as guided imagery and mindfulness meditation are becoming more widespread as the scientific studies mount, indicating that mind-body techniques, may not only improve the quality of life for those facing a health concern or serious illness, but can actually promote physical healing and whole person wellness of body, mind, heart and spirit.  Keeping a healthy spirit and mind will aid in maintaining a healthy body and vice versa. A healthy, grounded spirit and soul also helps to improve our confidence levels and helps to boost self esteem and positive thoughts.”

Just like exercise builds muscle, becoming conscience builds mind muscle. Remember what happens to the body also happens to the mind and even to the spirit and vice versa. If you are eating for health but harbor on unhealthy thoughts, you are not healthy. 

Solutions: 

What can you do? Implement changes until the mind/body are on the same page-do it until it becomes a lifestyle. When you change how you look at things the things you look at change.

When you change how you be with things the things you be with change.

A number of studies at UCLA and at Harvard, (2) show that there are structural changes in the very parts of the brain, for people who do practice mindfulness meditation.  There are structural changes in the same mind / body circuit, that we need to implement, in order  to support our empathic communication with other people.  That's probably why there are so many studies that show that empathy is significantly increased in those who practice mindfulness.

Which part of our mind runs our life?   “Most people hardly use the conscious mind.  They run their day-to-day existence from programs stored in their subconscious mind.” (3)  “What programs will that subconscious mind run? The answer is the exact programs that were downloaded into the subconscious mind.” These subconscious programs are at the core of our perception of the world around us. They anchor our belief systems, our perception of right and wrong, our spirit and our soul.  These deeply stored programs, are what guide us and play out our journey, throughout out entire life, unless we go into the subconscious mind and rewrite the program. Yes, we can rewrite the program!

“By making a conscious decision, our conscious mind can rewrite any of our subconscious programs.”  We can even go back and change our genetic activity. “The conscious mind is unique because it can change an entire history of perceptions in order to engage in different behaviors and life styles. The new sciences of epi-genetics and quantum mechanics recognize the important role of the invisible fields in controlling life, which includes the thoughts and energies that contribute to our reality. “This new awareness gives each of us the ability, and the power, to change our old worldview.

We now know that we can actually control our genes, and as a result, we control our lives. Our thoughts are real and tangible. They influence our physiology. If we choose to be around sickness or depression we will become what is our environment. 

Solution:

Change our environment and belief system, and we can change our life.  Beliefs can change our thoughts and change our DNA. This is extremely powerful, and isn’t it fascinating that our mind has the ability to look at itself, from the outside in?

How is energy impaired when the mind is broken?

1-The mind is an energetic field.

The mind influences the immune system, digestive and endocrine system. When we have an abundance of stress in our lives we also have a diminished functioning immune system. 

An abundance of stress reduces blood flow to the gut leaving it unable to repair itself. As a result, our metabolism is impaired. This leads to a lack of energy in our cells.  With less energy, we stop exercising.  That in turn stresses the lymphatic system leaving it congested and lethargic. Stress can make our mind & body sick. 

Solution:

Don’t sweat the small stuff. One of the most efficient ways to defuse stress while it's happening, is to use positive emotion.  A thought is a physical energy. Sending information to the body saying “I am better” is sending information to the body to correct itself.

2- Alzheimer’s: 

“We need to take action to eliminate toxins through understanding the underlying causes of cellular breakdown in the brain.  Free radicals from toxins, lead to oxidative stress.  With cell death we see more people with Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s.  Mitochondria are extremely sensitive to the insults of  inflammation and toxic damage.”(4) 

Alzheimer’s is all about toxins and loss of energy. In fact it may soon be called Diabetes Type 3. Pesticides, alcohol, gluten and sugar are toxins we ingest from foods along with mercury from fish, dental fillings and contact lens solution.  Yes, that stuff people use to clean their lenses and more get in the way of our brain and gut function.  Added to that mix, we work in a toxic environment and are consuming inflammatory foods, causing thyroid and hormonal imbalances.  In their book, Dangerous Grains, (5) James Braly, MD, and Ron Hoggan, MA point out that undiagnosed sensitivity to gluten in wheat, and other proteins in grains:

“Is the root cause of many cancers, autoimmune diseases, neurological  diseases, osteoporosis,  attention deficit disorders, learning disorders psychiatric and other brain disorders.”

I’ve seen first hand elderly people with gallons of ice cream, rBGH milk, bread and soda in their refrigerator, with no visible signs of fruits, vegetables and other whole foods.  Today 50% of 85 year olds have Alzheimer’s, resulting in a 60 billion a year business!  However Alzheimer’s doesn’t begin at age 85, it can go undetected for more than 50 years.

Solution: Most brain inflammation can be prevented. It’s easy in this fast paced world, to be toxic, stressed and depressed. Life is not what happens to us, but rather how we handle what is happening. Become mindful, as stress, toxins and a poor diet, are counter productive to brain, gut, and our overall wellness.

Can fast food logos affect our mind?

It turns out that just looking at fast-food-company logos may be enough to affect our attitude and judgment.

A recent study reported in the March 2010 issue of Psychological Science (6) found that, compared with a control group that spent time viewing unrelated shapes of similar size and the logos of inexpensive chain restaurants, people who spent time examining fast-food logos were more likely to exhibit impatience and haste in executing subsequent tasks, and less likely to defer gratification.

The results suggest that our exposure to, and associations with, fast food may carry over into other areas of our lives and consumer behaviors in surprising, unconscious ways.

In a study of 57 people, University of Toronto researchers (7) found that the fast-food participants were, in later exercises, significantly more likely to prefer items characterized as timesaving. They were also more apt to race through reading assignments, even when presented with no time limit, and to accept smaller sums of money right away rather than wait and receive larger sums of money later.  This can affect our judgement in all business decisions.

Conclusion:

Take a look at your life today. How do you feed your mind & body?  Do you have Negative Nellie self talk or listen to negative news before bed?  Do you live on alcohol, caffeine, sugar, trans fats, flour products and gluten? Do you have emotional wellness or do you suffer from anxiety, lack of intimacy, stress, Gerd, inflammation and brain fog?  All these are a lack of mind/ body health. 

If you intend to be mindful, eat healthy, improve digestion and hormonal imbalances and feel fantastic, I am here.  Our conscious mind is capable of making the decision to stop old habits, and focus on creating new positive habits.  With time, these new habits become new established programs in our subconscious.  We are capable of changing our path, our results and reinventing our very being.

Make a plan to succeed by getting the support you need today! As a Certified Integrated Health Coach for 12 years, Connie Rogers specializes in helping people make healthy changes and achieve results that last a lifetime. Expert in toxins that can disrupt our skin, metabolic and endocrine health.www.bitesizepieces.net

Footnotes:

1-Dr. Paul Epstein- http://www.drpaulepstein.com

2-studies http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1361002/ see also http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3004979/

3- Bruce Lipton book-The wisdom of your cells

4-  Mark Hyman book -The Ultra Mind Solution 

5- James Braly, MD, and Ron Hoggan  book-“Dangerous Grains” 

6- fast food on the brain- http://www2.rotman.utoronto.ca/facbios/file/Zhong%20and%20DeVoe,%202010.pdf see also http://pss.sagepub.com/content/early/2010/03/19/0956797610366090.full

7- higher later dollar amounts- http://www.pendletonpsych.com/whats-new/fast-food

Hair Loss In Women Doesn't Always Have To Be Permanent

Over the years women, have confided in me about those special times they would donate their locks for cancer patients, and then years later they themselves were feeling less then comfortable about their own thinning hair.  Is there a certain age where everything droops, puckers or falls out, they ask?   

Hair loss is a conversation that not too many of us talk about, unless you’re in the hair business or whisper concerns to your best friend.

I hear women say with a panic tone:  “In two months it will be the beginning of summer vacation and OMG…  my hair is falling out.  Why is this happening to me…?  ” 

Well the reason “Why” is a good question. 

Many well known factors include smoking, radiation, chemotherapy and aging.  But what if you don’t fit into any of those categories? 

If you knew some habits could contribute to hair loss would you make some changes?  

Hair loss Reasons and Tips to follow

  • Low levels of Vitamin B, and Thyroid disruption.  Do you live on sugar or are you addicted to wheat/gluten? These can rob you of Vitamin B’s. (7)
  • Hormones can play a significant role in the health and quality of the hair. For ladies, quick hair loss could result from a lack of many nutrients.  Low iron levels are known to be a causative factor for hair loss. (1)
  • A trauma that triggered an unhealthy and sudden weight loss can cause hair loss.  This can also be an eating disorder.  (6)
  • What  OTC’s and other medications do you take daily?   Do you have Depression? (2)
  • Abundance of unnecessary supplements.  Do you supplement instead of eating real whole foods?  Overdoing vitamin A-containing supplements or medications can trigger hair loss, according to the American Academy of Dermatology.
  • Stress-Do you live on a diet of stress?  Chronic stress must be addressed and the adrenal gland must be fed to maintain the health of the body, including the health of the hair and scalp. (3)
  • Do you dye your hair or use toxic hair products?    Over the years these can cause endocrine disruption, thinning and hair loss.  It helps to read labels.  If you can’t pronounce it don’t use it.
  • Sugar- Thinning can be related to the changes in the hormone testosterone.  Sugar and alcohol can deplete testosterone levels. An abundance of sugar and processed foods will also lead to a lack of minerals. 
  • Insomnia-What keeps you awake? Sleep is another “must haves” to help fight hair loss.  A sleep deprived body produces more stress hormones and hair loss.
  • Leaky gut-Poor digestion and utilization of protein can cause hair loss.
  • Oxidative Stress and free radical damage.  Avoid hours in the sun with an “unprotected scalp”. (8)
  • Candida can be linked to dermatitis or atopic dermatitis which can sometimes cause hair loss. (4) 

Healthy hair is a sign of overall good health, so it would make sense that we would want to keep it. Healthy hair thrives on real whole foods/real nutrient rich foods.

So How can we feed our hair? 

Some choices are Spinach, bananas, Brazil nuts for selenium and oysters for zinc. 

To achieve a more balanced healthy lifestyle and improve the health of your hair and scalp, ditch the chips, sugar and processed crap and shop on the outer aisles of the grocery store, or your favorite farmers market, where you'll find fresh organic fruits & veggies. 

With sense of peacefulness and calm, a scalp massage can increase blood flow and lymphatic drainage in the head, both of which purportedly stimulate hair follicles in the scalp and keep it healthy.(5) 

Tips:

*Remember to remove toxic chemical laden shampoos and conditioners that can cause hair loss and replace with organic products.

*Ditch the refined sugar, sweets, wheat and processed foods.

*Develop good sleeping habits. Make an intention to get to bed at the same time every night.

*Address Candida and Leaky Gut issues.

* Add Exercise to your day- this helps to release stress.

*Eat more fruits, and green vegetables for depression and healthy hair.

Footnotes:

1- Shrivastava, SB.  (2009).  Diffuse hair loss in an adult female: approach to the diagnosis and management.  Indian J Dermatol Venereol Leprol, 75(1):20-7

2- (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0003730/)

3- Hair loss has been improved by hypnosis, with one of the biggest effects being help with underlying stress and anxiety [Source: Willemsen] see also Stress (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15304082)

4- (http://candidaquestions.probacto.com/3330/is-candida-connected-to-eczema-or-atopic-dermatitis)

5- [source: Osborn].  http://www.massagetherapy.com/articles/index.php/article_id/885/Indian-Head-Massage

6- Crash diets, major surgery and hair loss (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0003730/)

7- Gluten and Hair loss-To date, there have been 100′s of symptoms, syndromes, and diseases linked to gluten exposure for those with gluten sensitivity.  One of these little known diseases is alopecia areata (autoimmune hair loss). Source: Minerva Gastroenterol Dietol. 1999 Dec;45(4):283-5.

Gluten Can Cause Nutritional Hair Loss as Well…Aside from causing autoimmune hair loss, gluten can cause malnutrition leading to nutritional forms of alopecia.  One of the primary side effects of gluten is damage to the intestinal lining.  This damage can lead to malabsorption of vitamins and minerals

8- Extrinsic factors include smoking, ultraviolet radiation and nutrition and Oxidative stress (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2929555/) see also http://link.springer.com/article/10.1134%2FS2079057013010086

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Connie Rogers is an Expert in toxins that can disrupt our skin, metabolic and endocrine health. Lifestyle Educator, Reiki Master, 37 years Certified Cosmetologist/Esthetician, Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach, Accredited through American Association of Drugless Practitioners, Published Author, Wellness Writer, Owner Reverseage Wellness Essential Oils

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Make Food Your Friend

Take a few minutes to conjure up in your mind the image of two women.  One thing they have in common is that they both love to eat.  The first woman loves the food she’s known all her life – Big Macs with the side of fries and the extra-large Diet Coke, of course.  It might be Wendy’s another day, Kentucky Fried Chicken the day after that.  More often than not, she grabs her food in a bag handed to her through a drive through window, and will have finished the meal before she gets home.  She doesn’t cook – she’s usually too hungry when it’s mealtime to take the time to cook, and anyway, the food tastes better soaked in lard and fried in grease.  She may socialize with comfort food, fried chicken and potato salad at a church social, followed by apple pie that is likely to be bought at the grocery store, where they’ve been sitting prettily on the shelf thanks to the preservatives used to keep them looking good.  This woman’s approach to food, the food she loves, is almost frantic.  She loves it so much, she just can’t wait to eat it.  During the day, she may curb her hunger between meals with a Snickers bar or maybe even a “healthy” granola bar or serving of sugary yogurt.  She can’t go to bed without a helping of Ben and Jerry’s – that stuff is to DIE for.  She eats it as if she would die without it, and the fact is, she’s dying because of it.

Can you picture her?  She may be skinny, but more than likely she’s overweight.  For sure her skin isn’t as clear and bright as it could be.  She isn’t grounded.  Food rules her life, and she loves this food.  But it doesn’t love her back.  She suffers from many issues including digestion, stress, hormone, sleep, hair, skin, and mood.

Picture the second woman.  She loves her food, too.  But she loves it in a wholly different way.  She strolls through the farmer’s market on a Saturday morning.  She takes her time inspecting and admiring the fruits and vegetables in the produce bins.  She loads her basket with carefully chosen greens, artichokes, carrots, onions, organic peppers and sweet potatoes.  She adds fresh strawberries, kiwi, melons, and apples.  She might choose an organic chicken and some duck eggs from the same farmer.  She talks to the farmers, asks about their crops and harvests.   Whatever she can’t find she picks up the local grocery store – a little quinoa, spices, olive oil, beans and a bottle of organic red wine.  Perhaps she even has her own garden, where she grows her own eggplant, tomatoes and bib lettuce.  When she gets home she takes her time cooking an organic veggie chili. She cuts the onions, peppers, sweet potatoes and carrots, puts them in the crockpot with the beans adding some tomatoes, kale and spices.  The house fill with the aroma.  She uses her mothers favorite recipe to bake her artichokes.  She makes a salad and pours some wine.  Her company arrives to a meal they’ll all share and savor together.

I’m sure you can picture this second woman, too.  A healthy glow to her skin, a genuine smile.  A peace and serenity about her.  She’s not frantic. She’s not sick.  She’s at peace with herself, and with her food.  The two go hand in hand.

Now – who loves food more?  I mean, truly loves it?  Respects it?  Honors it?  And enjoys it in a peaceful, dignified, grounded way?

The first woman claims she loves food, but the food is her enemy.  It controls her, and if she wanted to “diet,” to lose weight or otherwise get control of herself, she would easily see food as an obstacle to her goals.  Right now, food is something she is panicked about, desperate for, and grabs when she feels she is empty and needs to fill herself up – very much like a dysfunctional relationship, in fact!  If she wanted to change her habits, food would be something she’d have to manage, deprive herself of, conquer and defeat.  It would be a constant struggle, because of her mindset.

The second woman already sees food as her friend, and she doesn’t seem deprived at all – does she?  She takes her time, appreciates the food – the way it looks, feels, smells.  She cooks it carefully, and serves it in the midst of joy and happiness.  She makes it with love.  And the best part?  The food she loves DOES love her back!  She’s healthy and happy, and the food fuels her.  When she eats, she spends more time thinking about what she’s putting in her body so she can live and thrive, not what she’s depriving herself of.

Food – real, whole, nourishing food – is your friend.  Thinking of  your food that way is important for health.  So go to your favorite farmers market and  discover the foods you love, and they will love you back.

Know your food-Because Real Food Changes Everything!

Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach and Wellness Writer. www.bitesizepieces.net

Expert in toxins that can disrupt our metabolic and endocrine health.

Looking Into The Eyes Of An Apple

“Living in the sixties we all set out to change the world as we knew it.”

How do you identify your roll in life, when your life has taken a U turn? As John Lennon said “Life is what happens when you’re making other plans”

Most of us have seen many friends and family pass away from cancer.  I have.  At the moment they retire or come down with an illness you may hear them say things such as, I’m not working any more, I’m taking time off, I’m resigning or I have to concentrate on my health now.  How many times have you heard this, and then they go off to die.

Why do we wait so long, to hear that we’re about to die, to make the decision to begin to live?

On October 5, 2011,  “Apple announced that Steve Jobs has passed away,” and for many, the world came to a long empty silence, as they had lost a powerful guiding light in their lives.  A visionary, who had changed their world.  The question in their minds:  would the team he left behind, have the ability to carry the torch, with the same breakthroughs and innovations to continue into the future?

The journey begins, and a most fascinating story it is:  Once upon a time, we were all small children, exploring, discovering, growing with each new experience.  Our dreams at night were dynamic, colorful, vibrant and some, their dreams began to drive them during their waking hours.  We see these people as visionaries, leaders, innovators, working their way to the top of every field.  The Beatles changed the music industry.  Steve Jobs changed the computer industry and gave us smart phones, iPads and more.

Maybe you know someone who’s one of these unique visionaries.  Maybe it’s you!  As a health coach, I ask one simple question:  Which is more important:  Your health or your wealth?  If we become what we focus on, and our entire focus is driven by our job, our vision, our career path, then we are missing a huge element to our long-term success.  We are, to put it quite simply:  Out of balance!

History is filled with brilliant visionaries, who died way too young.  George Harrison died at 58 years old.  That means at 29, he was middle aged.

All the money in the world has not been able to save brilliant people from the grips of degenerative diseases.  Sure, none of us get out alive, but let’s make sure that we can enjoy a vibrant life while we are here.   Cancer is a metabolic disease and can take hold anywhere in our body many years before you hear those words, “you have cancer.”  We don’t catch cancer, we create it.  Our digestive system, liver, blood sugar levels and hormones plays a direct part in pancreatic cancer.  Pancreatic adenocarcinoma, the most common type of pancreatic cancer, strikes about 40,000 Americans per year.  However, it most often goes undiagnosed. http://www.siteman.wustl.edu/ContentPage.aspx?id=3890 See also http://carcin.oxfordjournals.org/content/early/2013/12/11/carcin.bgt480.abstract

Steve Jobs was diagnosed in 2003, but could have had cancer many years before his diagnoses.  Pancreatic cancer is a malignant tumor of the pancreas caused by changes in DNA.  DNA is responsible for cell production, the instruction codes of our cells.  When DNA is damaged, pancreatic tissue cells become unhealthy, begin to grow uncontrollably, and can develop into malignant tumors. http://www.puristat.com/pancreas/pancreaticcancer.aspx

This story is too familiar with many that have succumbed to this disease. Most of our loved ones have battled with depression, eating or anxiety disorders, which many refer to as “their demons.”  Sugar, anti depressants, endocrine disruptors, sleepless nights can all play a big role in how the body balances hormones, internal gut health and cancer cells.  I had a friend that actually ate dried fruit every day of his life until he was given 2 weeks to live from having pancreatic cancer.  He  passed at 39 years old.  I had another that was living on store bought bottled fruit juices all day long while at work because she didn’t want to take time out to prepare a meal.  My sister had depression, mood swings and medications to handle her anxiety, way before being diagnosed with cancer.  She has passed.

Metabolic disorders such as diabetes and pancreatitis can begin with diet, stress and internal toxic related issues.  We stress our bodies to work longer hours and demand ourselves to be faster and quicker then our team members.  We consistently run on sugar and caffeine just trying to keep up. 

The dance of emotions: The liver plays a roll in how one controls one’s emotions ( includes temper or mood swings.)  When running optimally the liver removes toxins with little effort.  But when our liver is toxic and hot, we can have severe mood swings.  Have you seen road rage on TV lately?  What do you think can cause this?  Is it possible that many people are out of control because they are toxic? 

Steve was said “to be like a haunted house by his early girlfriend ~ Chrisann Brennan, having many mood swings.”   I could only speculate that sugar and caffeine may have played a roll in Steve’s diet over his lifetime.

Mr Jobs admitted to suffering bouts of depression and divulged he took LSD which is a drug broken down by the liver and has been shown to increase blood pressure.  High blood pressure can negatively effect liver health.  However, there are many pieces to this puzzle that we call cancer.

Endocrine Disruption: Cancer types that have been well documented in literature to be related with environmental exposure to toxins include the reproductive system, breast, lung, kidney, pancreas, and brain. There is a significant correlation between exposure to xenoestrogens and increased, gender-related, cancer risk.  http://www.ehjournal.net/content/11/S1/S8

1-Sugar is an endocrine disruptor.  In addition to hyperinsulinemia, the increased blood glucose and free fatty acids in diabetes may also promote the growth of pancreatic cancer.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7638764?dopt=Abstract&holding=f1000,f1000m,isrctn

2-Research published in the November 2007 issue of American Journal of Clinical Nutrition which concluded there was “evidence for a greater pancreatic cancer risk with a high intake of fruit and juices.

3- Grains and soy can be considered disruptors and can feed cancer. https://www.bulletproofexec.com/steve-jobs-dr-dean-ornish-and-vegetarian-cancer/

4-There is known pancreatic cancer risk and environmental toxins from  PCB’s and dioxins- http://www.foxriverwatch.com/pancreatic_cancer_pcbs_1.html

5-Dry cleaning and paint removals are disruptors- http://aje.oxfordjournals.org/content/153/9/841.full

6-Gingivitis or periodontal disease-Helicobacter pylori infection /gut bacteria can be linked to cancer.

Whether or not you are at risk for developing pancreatic cancer, cleansing your body of wastes and toxins is vital for optimal health, which is directly linked to metabolic and endocrine health.

Consider the fact that petroleum products, ranging from fertilizers to deodorants, are one of the most prevalent toxins in our environment. Chemicals in, on and around us act as xenoestrogens (synthetic estrogen), blocking liver function, and interfering with hormone functioning.  “These toxins work to weaken the neuroendocrine system – where certain pancreatic cancers develop – wreaking havoc on the glands that secrete hormones into our bloodstream.”

According to news reports, back in 2004 Jobs underwent successful surgery for a pancreatic neuroendocrine tumor.  These tumors produce excess hormones. (Hormone Disruption) (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/05/steve-jobs-health-timeline_n_997313.html)

 Fortune magazine publishes a controversial piece claiming that Jobs masked his cancer battle for nine full months before informing anyone outside of the most intimate of inner circles.  A Buddhist and vegetarian, Jobs reportedly "considered not having surgery at all," upon receiving his diagnosis, according to the piece.

August 2011: Jobs announces his resignation  "I have always said if there ever came a day when I could no longer meet my duties and expectations as Apple’s CEO, I would be the first to let you know.  Unfortunately, that day has come."

Looking within:  Even today there is misinformation promoted by pictures of food pyramids, focused on calcium content, protein requirements to the paleo diet.  Jumping to grab the latest fad, we lose sight of true health.

Some say they are eating vegetarian but remain faithful to their daily toxic cheese and french fry habit loaded with carcinogens, morphine, sugar and trans fats.   Vegans all come together with the object of health as a commonality but in really is it so?  Have you seen vegans eat tons of sugar?

How can we obtain true health while still ingesting chemicals.  When we look at how GMO’s have poisoned our food supply, do we still buy conventional?   When we look how far we’ve come knowing that toxins cause cancer do we think ourselves immune, thinking that it can never happen to us?   When we have the flu or arthritis do we run to the nearest doctors for the fastest relief?  If we do all these, then are we ready to accept the diagnosis?

Advertisements are intentionally deceptive.  Do we believe in happy pills, sleeping pills and getting your life back into control pills?   Are we active members of the twilight zone giving up our sub-conscience to our TV’s as we chow down on a bag of potato chips?  It is never just one thing that we expose ourselves to.  As a spa owner for almost 4 decades, I know which ingredients can be toxic endocrine disruptors.   Whether TV promotes a cream or lotion to look 20 years younger-do we see it as something we want to ingest?   Did the chemical lab of that product sell you on a sham story, that it was going to make you more beautiful and desirable?   Did he research those toxins and disclose your cancer risk?   Are you dying to look good?

Some people promote everything is good in moderation. However I believe-since when is a toxic poison in moderation good for us?

In the 60‘s we were going to change the world.  Have we made those necessary bite size steps or do we still practice behavior that can cut our life in half?

Steve Jobs was building a business, with his stress, his demons and ill health, but  where is he today?  He tried to practice mindfulness with Buddhism at the same time denying he had a daughter.

Cancer is our body’s way of saying we can’t take the insults any more.

Our toxic beliefs live inside us, we call these our demons.  Knowing how to truly nourish ourselves in mind, body and spirit is truly the key to living a strong, vibrant life. 

Steve you will be missed.  I wish I could have been your Health Coach.

Connie Rogers is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, specializing in toxins that can disrupt your Metabolic and Endocrine Health. Founder and owner of BiteSizePieces.net

If we take a U turn toward our vision, do we forget our health along the way?  The answer in most cases has been yes. Being laser focused on a huge long-term goal, building a business, some entrepreneurial venture, or what ever your dream might be, make sure you never lose focus on you.

 

THE MOST EXCITING TICKET IN TOWN

Q: What was the most exciting ticket in town this past weekend?

A: Well, it depends on what you’re into, but for me, it was the Inaugural Life Coach Radio Network Workshop Weekend!

I’m part of this amazing network of coaches from around the country, and we’re on the radio several times a month; however, this was our first live event and it was a great success. Here are some of my takeaways. My hope is that you will be inspired in some aspect of your life by some of these really amazing coaches!

·         Mindful Eating: I was able to apply lessons from this talk right away, especially because it took place right before lunch! If you know me, you know I love me some Japanese ramen. Well, I went to my fave place for lunch and practiced the mindful eating techniques Danielle Mercurio provided during her workshop. I left feeling satisfied, yet not full and was able to return to the event fully charged, but not lethargic.

·         Spirituality: This is an area I’m constantly looking to work on. Jennifer Kottler provided a fresh new perspective – a different way to look at spirituality that I can incorporate into my daily practice. Her use of analogies and phrases made it very simple for a novice spiritual-ite to engage.

·         Resilience: Man, this is one of my favorite topics. Developing resilience serves us in so many aspects of life- work, diet/exercise, personal relationships and hell- even the NYC Subway system! When I was promoted a few years back in my conference life, I had an executive coach who focused on resilience with me, and these lessons have served me well. Filomena Iorio-Tasoluk and Veronica Taylor really broke down the top 10 characteristics to grow and build upon to develop this important muscle. They’re turning it into an online workshop soon, too!

·         Defining Your Life, Your Way: This was my workshop and it’s a topic area I’m super passionate about. We talked about defining what matters to you- not what matters to others- and the next step is to put what matters to you into a WIP “Life Plan” so to speak that can be changed as you go and grow.

·         Going With The Flow: We had our first live studio audience for an actual LIVE radio show on this very topic! Coaches Andrea Ruchelman, Tim Billiter and Russ Terry talked about how to get into the right mindset to be able to do this naturally and easily. This TOTALLY came in handy during snarled traffic and commutes due to freezing train lines this week!

·         Clearing Clutter: Danielle Mund shared her theory on “Your ONE thing,” where she laid out what multitasking actually does to our brains and why focusing on Your ONE thing will help you actually achieve results. She talked about how you can define your one thing to move forward. This was REALLY helpful to me, because in addition to my growing coaching business, I do event work so I am constantly mutli-tasking. This helped me understand how to cultivate my ONE thing while still being practical.

·         Networking With Linked In: Russ Terry brought the workshop weekend HOME, yo! He closed the weekend on an equally strong note to the rest of the amazing workshops with a really practical, hands on approach to using Linked In to find business opportunities and the job of your dreams. I was able to use my computer in real time to update my profile and make it stronger.

Unfortunately, I was unable to clone myself and attend all the various workshops going on at once.  There were opportunities to hear from Divorce Coach Martin Salama, Life Purpose Coach Annette Johnson, Clutter Coach Tracy Pierce, Leadership Coach Barbara Hetzel, Purpose and Transitions Coach Mandy Roczniak and Corporate Coach Shannon Sennefelder.

If you’re looking for some guidance on any of these areas of your life, definitely contact them or me and be sure to listen in on our upcoming shows!


Jill Ozovek is a personal development coach who works with 30-something women (and others!) with demanding careers and busy lives get real with themselves and figure out how to take the next big step in their lives, whether it be a career change, personal development goal or relationship challenge. To learn more, visit www.jillozovek.com

How Can We Just Be?

Do you find yourself spending a lifetime of just doing,

or wishing you could rewind the tape? 

You look around and wonder where did the time go, or what else is there? 

I believe we can reinvent ourselves if we spend some quality time with being..

Were you told as a child if you want to be, then you just do?  We want to be thinner, happier, have it all and all pain free, yet do we ever address what are we doing along the journey to get there?  Staying in the “comfort zone” can be considered a “blind zone”  and even when it doesn’t serve many people, we seem to “just stay there”.

From a mothers point of view, we have opportunities and reasons “why” we do the things the way we do.  Sometimes it dates back to how our parents did it.  If we don’t find these habits serve us any more, Quit.  Yes, we can quit habits that don’t bring out the best in us.  Intelligence tells us if we feel bad when we eat something rotten, don’t eat it!   As with any new muscle formation, our “quitting muscle” means we can venture out with “new ways of being”.

When we concentrate on "being" who we truly are, we find joy.   If we can concentrate on being vs. doing, we can actually improve our health, save time and have less stress in our lives.  

Energy...

We are busy, tired, wired and stressed. What is keeping us awake at night and sleepy during the day?  If we eat for energy instead of comfort, we can achieve this delicate balance.   Most comfort foods are processed foods and “processed foods are electrically distorted foods.” (1)

Imbalances always begin with the decline of electrical integrity within the body, leaving one with chronic congestion and inflammation.  Deep within our subconscious soul, our body hears everything we think and say.   Because the body increases production of the adrenal hormones when under stress, this can be linked to nutritional deficiencies.  “Every cell in our body has a positive and negative electrical charge.”  A healthy body is made up of trillions of cells in a continual delicate balance of plus and minus energies.  When we pollute our inner environment it strips our electrical charges, and we fall out of balance.

All matter is energy.  All energy is in constant motion.  Even when we sleep our heart pumps and our body detoxes automatically.  Fully awake we have to ask the question:  Are we full of vibrant energy and life or are we “just doing” what it takes to get by?

Labels...

Have you thought while watching some nightly TV show:  “What if all life was a drug for this “dis ease” or a punishment for that “lawbreaker?”  Society tends to put “labels” on “things.”

Explore a life without labels.  In the beginning we were love and light, and if we remove our blinders, we’ll discover that, we still are!  Rather than labeling things, or people, a far more grounded, healthier energy is found in quieting out the noise, and finding that place of awareness.   It can be intuitive if we take a moment to “listen.” 

Listening....

A fascinating habit, so many of us do, when we meet new people is to ask:   “So, what do you do?”  What they do, often has little to do with who they are.  Right?   You’ll find out when you listen and discover who they really are.  I know people who say they would like a more fulfilling relationship.  The lesson is in the listening. 

Imagine you’re home with your teenager after school.   His teacher called and said “Your son had a fight in the classroom today.”  Before speaking to your son, ask yourself:  “Can this situation be looked at in a different way that I haven't been considering?”  “Can I stop the stress and give what I see my child needs right at this very moment?”  Listen for the answer.  It’s a wonderfully productive zone to “be in” and a state that also unexpectedly makes you smile, instead of frowning.   A conscience effort put in motion with everything we want to “be.”  ~ Love. 

Can we be the change? 

Here’s a basic reality check:

Do you find yourself worrying or anxious about stuff you’ve got to get done every day?  Do you want to say goodbye to habits that don’t serve you?  What is your time worth?  Maybe it’s time to stop living in the land of “some day I’ll...”   There’s no better time then NOW to remember to have intention to “be the change”.   All change begins in your mind first!  ~ You see, hear, hit replay and feel it.

It’s a choice-To be healthy, To be conscience, To be kind, To be loving.  Become aware that you can choose your foods and thoughts, which in turn can make your life easier and less stressful.  “The power of being in the now is full awareness of our environment.” (2) And remember, any bite size step is a win. 

Most of the time it is easier to stay stuck and /or addicted in our actions and our thoughts.  Procrastination/indecision, fills a life with “unfulfilling matter’ and “regrets” while never giving us the results we want to achieve.  It has been said that if you change your mind about stress, your body actually reacts differently to stress.   If you tell yourself “this is going to be a stress free day” - it will be.

Some mistakes you can avoid:

1-There’s an old saying~Don’t rush the spaghetti sauce.  Making your family number one takes time and patience.

2-”Doing” doesn’t always equal joy.  Find time to relax and “just be”.

3- Munching on chips in front of the TV doesn’t help you to chill and de-stress…it only adds stress.  Learn why digestion is so important. “30 to 40% of the total digestive response to any meal is due to our full awareness of what we’re eating.”(2) 

4- ADD can be mislabeled. Check here for more info:  http://www.cchrsiliconvalley.org/adhd/

5-Look at what’s holding you back, but don’t wallow there. 

6-Don’t be afraid to ask for support.  Make a plan to succeed by getting the support you need!

 

Connie Rogers is a Certified Health Coach and Reiki Master at www.bitesizepieces.net.   A powerful way to support my clients is in  “finding joy by being” and “making the room to make changes”.  Evaluate how your current decisions are affecting you and what they are costing you when you ignore them.

Footnotes:

Electrical Nutrition by Denie Hiestand

http://psychologyofeating.com/the-metabolic-power-of-vitamin-a-awareness/

http://psychologyofeating.com/the-metabolic-power-of-vitamin-a-awareness/

3 Ways to Honor Your Sentimental Items and Reduce the Clutter

When I work with clients, one of the common things people have trouble with is sentimental items they received or inherited. Some of us feel that to donate or otherwise get rid of these items that have been passed down isn’t right, that we must keep the item to honor that person’s memory. But how are you honoring a person’s memory if all that stuff is just sitting in your basement gathering dust and mold?

Just because you’re getting rid of a sentimental item doesn’t mean that you’re throwing out the person or his or her memory. There are many ways to remember these items and the memories they represent. Here are three ideas:

1. Take Digital Photos. We are so lucky to live in the digital age where we can create ways to remember our physical items in a digital format, which of course frees up our physical space. When my mom finally made me take ownership of all the dolls she had saved for me from childhood, I knew I didn’t want to keep most of them, but I did want to remember the dolls. So I spent some time taking some great photos of them to help me remember. It made it much easier to donate them after taking the photos. I've found that with sentimental items, people are often afraid that if they get rid of the item they will lose the memory. For me, taking a digital photo is a great way to keep the memory without keeping the stuff.

2. Keep ONE, Not All. Many people will shutter to think of breaking up an old dish set, but if the dishes are just sitting in a box in your basement, what good are they really serving? Consider keeping one place setting of the dishes or another piece you really like, and finding a place in your home to display it. Donate or consign the rest of the set. The same goes for other collections that you may have inherited - pick one (or a few) that you really like and that you're willing to display in your home, and get rid of the rest.

3. Repurpose Old Items into Display Art. I encourage you to think outside the box. For example, those quilts that you inherited – perhaps they are ripped in a few places and stained in others, but your grandma made the quilts so you really want to keep them. How about cutting out some of your favorite parts of the quilts and transforming them into a wall hanging for display? Another fun idea - I met a woman who takes antique-looking dishes and makes them into yard sculptures (most of which have little solar lights built into them for night lighting). If you're not the arts and crafts type, talk to some of your friends who have these talents and see if they might be willing to help you repurpose your items.

If you have sentimental items in your home that you’ve had packed up for some time, look very carefully at them; do you really want to keep them? If you do, find a way to incorporate them into your home and DISPLAY them, they aren't serving any purpose to be packed away for years on end. Stuff was meant to be used and enjoyed, not collecting dust in moldy corners of your basement!

Have you used any of these or other methods with your own sentimental items? I'd love to hear about them in the comments below!

Tracy K. Pierce

Tracy K. Pierce

Tracy K. Pierce is a Clutter Coach, Holistic Organizer, and the creator of the Reclaim Your Space, Reclaim Your Life Bootcamp program. She is the owner and founder of Synergy Organizing and Synergy Wellness. Her mission is to propel her clients towards the realization of their ideal lives. Tracy assists holistically-minded and motivated people who are sick and tired of their clutter reclaim space for what matters most.

There Is No Place For Bullying

On Friday, November 6, on my radio show Train Your Brain to Up Your Game with Coach Mandy  show focused on a few topics hot in youth sports. One of them was whether or not a lopsided game of 91-0 constituted a bullying accusation filed by a parent of the losing team.  In doing some research it became apparent the players stayed respectful, showed good sportsmanship, the clock stayed running, and the players even did some things to not score a few times when they could. On the show we discussed there is a difference between one team being over matched due to talents levels and bullying and that the parent filing a formal complaint actually diminished the serious nature of bullying that we do have going on right now.  The lopsided win, in my opinion, was not a bullying case, it was an unfortunate mismatch of player abilities and schools that will need to reevaluate their schedules.  I wish one team did not have to experience such a loss, but the players weren't targeted, taunted, or ridiculed.  It was a bad loss and I wish it didn't happen.

Unfortunately, over the past week a true and serious bullying/hazing situation has come to the surface within the Miami Dolphins organization.  Ritchie Incognito was suspended from the Dolphins for bullying fellow player, Jonathan Martin, to the extent Martin left the team due to mental distress.  Presently, the NFL is further investigating the situation.  There is no place for bullying/hazing in sports and certainly not in our everyday lives. 

It is time we started showing more compassion for each other, time to start welcoming others instead of closing doors.  Making yourself feel good by hurting someone else, doesn't take away the bullies pain (because that's what they are, in pain or in fear of something) it only brings another person down into an emotionally and sometimes physically distressed state.  Bullying is painful, bullying has pushed way too many kids and people to believe they are not good enough to the point they try to commit suicide - with far too many not being saved in time.  It has to stop, but it won't.  My only hope is a serious story such as this will bring a new light to the seriousness of bullying and that it happens everywhere.  Even to big and physically intimidating and strong football players.  The size of the person being bullied has no bearing on the pain it internally inflicts.  Inside we're all the same size.  Inside we all want to be liked, loved, accepted, and know we have value and matter.  Usually the bully doesn't feel any of that and when they inflict their words or physical harm on another, the one being bullied certainly doesn't feel it.  Yet we all do MATTER, we all do have VALUE, and we are all LOVEABLE.

So the next time you make a joke at someone's expense remember to them it's not funny.  The next time you laugh at a practical joke that humiliates another, think of the deeper pain it may be causing.  We don't know what is going on inside another and we should never do anything to make ourselves feel better by bringing someone else down.  Live with compassion and empathy and together we can all make this a safer, more accepting world.

 

Mandy Roczniak

Mandy Roczniak

Mandy Roczniak has more than 23 years of experience in the field of coaching; 20 years as a collegiate softball coach (nine as a DI Head Coach) and three years as a certified life coach. She has mentored and coached high-level athletes throughout her career to help them reach their full potential and attain their athletic, academic, career,  and life goals.   To learn more about how Mandy can help you reach your full potential, visit www.coachmandy.com